How To Make People Like And Listen To You!
Be a little cooler (like me!), of course!
So the first step is to be cool.
You’ve always wanted to know how to be cool, too.
And I’ve figured out how to find our inner cool!
But why do you want to be cool? It’s essential to evaluate our motives. If we are cool, then people will like us! And by “like,” I mean “like” the things we say on social media! Then we can feel important!
And this is how we know we have significant lives!
For example, in the book Deep Work, Cal Newport says that social media is popular because we agree to specific codes of conduct with friends that make us feel important! For example, we agree to “like” every inane and boring comment that our list of friends says, as long as they obey the unwritten rule also to “like” our inane, superficial and uninteresting comments!
Cal Newport states that if we wrote comments on a blog that we wrote on social media, we would have precisely zero readers.
In contrast, people read my online writing!
Last week, I learned that people from 33 countries have read my writing online (Seriously!).
Why this level of success, you ask?
1. One reason could be that I constantly write incredibly jaw-dropping, interesting facts. However, we all know that you laugh at me whenever I say something particularly insightful, so saying interesting things can’t be why you read this Substack or blog.
2. The unusual favor could be because God sometimes whispers between the words to mysteriously touch your soul, which should be the case for all of us who learn to listen to and follow Jesus - He speaks through our lives. (So no, I’m NOT saying I’m special (you Loser!) because we’re all losers -but this is good news!– remember?)
3. I am finding my inner cool. I wouldn’t go so far as to say I am cool quite yet, but perhaps that is a matter of opinion.
I prefer to assume it’s Option 3.
So yes, how do we find our inner cool? Good question. This way:
1. Think of things that cool people do!
2. Do those things.
3. Wait to be covered in cool, too!
Here’s an example from my own life recently.
1. Cool people surf.
2. So I tried surfing for the first time last week!
3. Now I’m waiting for the cool to glom itself onto me.
That hasn’t entirely seemed to happen yet. And in the photo above, for some reason, I don’t look quite as cool as those cool super dudes, but that must be the camera angle or something.
We drove to a surfing location recently, and I will have my first ocean surfing lesson soon. Wish me luck! I’ll let you know what I learn to share my insights into being cool with you!
I’m not sure exactly why, but I sense God hinting that this ancient verse below fits perfectly with today’s theme.
The market is flooded with surefire, easygoing formulas for a successful life that can be practiced in your spare time. Don’t fall for that stuff, even though crowds of people do.
My husband said that being cool is overrated. But since he’s married to me, obviously, being cool is a big part of our image! How is it possible he has never noticed that before?!
Anyway, you’re welcome!
Good luck!
Photo Credits: Another Cool Person (Like Me) by Ben Iwara on Unsplash, Whaat? by Icons8 Team on Unsplash, Cool (Of Course) Surfing Person by Blake Hunter on Unsplash, Me Surfing by Someone In My Family That Doesn’t Take Great Pictures, What I Would Look Like Surfing If The Camera Angle Was More Flattering by Hoang M Nguyen on Unsplash